Forgiveness is a godly trait which is quite difficult to emulate. So what is forgiveness?
On a frequent basis, we come across a beautiful word ‘forgiveness‘. Be it social media or a preacher, forgiveness is given a new definition every day. Beautiful wallpapers with enchanting quotes about this magic locution grab our attention, and we always say wow! That’s meaningful. We copy paste these quotes gloriously to beautify our social media pages, and just that gesture of ours bring happiness to our lives. Well, I did the same. Was fixing a screen saver on my laptop about forgiveness and my elder one who is six now asked me in her curious mermaid voice mummy what is FOORRGIVENEZZZZ.. quite a big word for her. Obviously, on a lazy Sunday morning, I was not prepared for this query, and as being a parent, it’s a hard and fast rule to inculcate the best knowledge to our child’s mind. So I enlightened her with a pre-made quote about forgiveness. She gave me a look as if I talked about Newton’s law and she walked away thinking it’s too complicated. I laughed sipping my tea and said yeah girl too a big word to understand. But just then someone inside me asked: “what forgiveness is?”
“Forgiveness is the act of pardoning an offender. In the Bible, the Greek word translated “forgiveness” literally means “to let go,” as when a person does not demand payment for a debt.”
We all are fallible and make many mistakes in life. We wrong ourselves, others, tell lies, are treacherous, and we cover it up with the most convenient word ‘sorry‘. Which mostly comes without a second thought. Also, some people find it difficult to say sorry or accept it. I am sure we all have moments where we have been profoundly hurt by people who betrayed us. Most importantly we have been the reason for other’s miseries as well.
Sadly, when we don’t seek forgiveness or forgive we leave a stain of that bitter-sad memory within yourself. We may think that we have moved on from that incident, but in actuality, we get used to it being a part of us and ignore it. But think of those innocent childhood days where we have had gangster fights with our best buddies, but when one or the other apologises and patches up, it fades away. So when we meet them now, we only talk about the cherished memories because we don’t remember the fights. Similarly, it takes enormous courage to forgive someone who trespassed against us. But whoever does so, sets an example of being ‘kind’ which is another excellent word with deep meanings.
Having said all that, I know it’s not a cake walk and trust me I am equally bad at it. But let’s give ourselves a chance so that we can lighten the burden of bitter memories within yourself. Let’s learn to forgive and move on. Let’s be kind because when we die and leave this world we are not taking anything else with yourself other than the memories we have made, and we only leave fond memories and good deeds behind. So let them be good ones which can be remembered whenever you are mentioned.
I believe forgiveness is the best form of love in any relationship. It takes a strong person to say they’re sorry and an even stronger person to forgive.